Saint Kay Media is for the uncomfortable parts. The hard questions, the half-answers, the things that don't fit in a caption. We make podcasts and write things for people who are tired of being told what to feel, what to want, and who to be. We don't have it figured out. Nobody does. But we'll say the thing, ask the question, and sit in the uncomfortable part with you for as long as it takes.
Welcome to the gray zone. Pull up a chair.
You're never going to arrive. Nobody does.Stay curious. Stay a little cringy. That's the job.
We show up, shoot the shit, and we're not afraid to embarrass ourselves. Why start now? We've been doing it our whole lives.
Saint Kay Media is what happens when you're done pretending you have your shit together.
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Kylen is 33. He lives in a shed on his dad's property, gets most of his news from YouTube, plays video games until 3am, and somehow still wants a wife, a family, a house, and a completely different life.
She's trying to help him build that life. He's trying to help her understand why his whole generation is stuck.
Kenda and Georgia. A kitchen counter or a wine bar. Three bottles and zero script. We sit down with people to talk about the things we were taught to keep quiet: sex, stigma, shame, and everything we've been embarrassed to say out loud. Pull up a stool. It's going to get loud.
Diary from the gray zone. The things that don't make it to the mic.
cheaper than therapy. barely.
Everybody has an ending. We have a dress.
For ten years, everyone from divorce attorneys to rock stars has slipped into the same wedding dress. Friends, strangers, even Kenda's mom. From Joshua Tree to Paris, Kenda and Georgia asked each one how it ended. The answers became this book: photos, stories, and a haiku from every ending, the sad ones, the funny ones, and the ones worth celebrating.
the dress?
my husband's ex-wife's.
Haikus from the book
Corsets, thongs and shotsNow she wears pee stained pantiesAnd drives a Volvo
I'd love to have sexRight after laundry, dinner,And dirty diapers
There was disconnectI talk about my feelingsHe said, "Um, I don't"
A story from the book
Tell me when it's outMy children would come home on Saturdays with a Tupperware full of brownies they had made in Her kitchen. I hated those brownies. I would dump them in the trash and squish them down hard. The therapy advice was to thank her on Mother's Day for taking such great care of the kids. Well, I wasn't going to do that! Perhaps if you cannot love her, you can learn to love the brownies. It felt like eating sandpaper. But after the second bite, something shifted.
the part nobody can do for you
Most of us are living a life we never actually signed off on. This is the book where I ask the question out loud, and then do something about the answer. It comes with a workbook, because reading about change and making it are two different things, and guided visualizations, because some of this you have to see before you can build it.
About the bookgood. now let's make it official.
the book
the workbook
the guided visualizations
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Intergenerational conversations and ideas, inspired by the Paris salons. Strangers and old friends, twenty somethings and seventy somethings, one long table, and nobody on their phone.
Save my seatRetreats with room to think, laugh, and try something you would never do at home. Every trip is different.
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Networking nights are on the way too.
“If you want something you've never had, you've got to do something you've never done.”
where it started: reading everything in the house.my mom's psych textbooks, her women's studies books,Women Who Run with the Wolves at an age when I shouldn't have understood it.
Parents keep asking what I hand my boys. These are the four I give every young person I mentor.
The Courage to Be Disliked
For the kid who's living for everyone else's approval. It's Alfred Adler's ideas written as a conversation, and it's the book that taught me you're not stuck with your past.
The Four Agreements
Four rules short enough to remember at 15 and hard enough to spend a lifetime on.
The Talent Code
For the kid who thinks some people are just born gifted. They're not. Talent gets built, and this book shows how.
Mental Toughness for Young Athletes
For the kid who has the skill but falls apart under pressure. It's written for sports, but it works everywhere else too.
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